from Wiktionary, Creative Commons Attribution/Share-Alike License

  • n. One who participates in BDSM.


BDSM +‎ -er (Wiktionary)


  • I think that it is very rare that a non-BDSMer in a BDSM relationship is not being abused subtly, unintentionally perhaps, but abused none-the-less.

    Bondage and Patriarchy

  • To me, that kind of injury doesn’t sound like the result of consensual sex for anyone but an extreme BDSMer.

    Duke Rape Case: Regarding “Innocent Until Proven Guilty”

  • I personally think that in a relationship between a BDSMer and a non-BDSMer, the BDSM should either accept non-BDSM sexuality, or accept that the relationship isn’t going to work out.

    Bondage and Patriarchy


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