from Wiktionary, Creative Commons Attribution/Share-Alike License
- n. One who participates in BDSM.
I think that it is very rare that a non-BDSMer in a BDSM relationship is not being abused subtly, unintentionally perhaps, but abused none-the-less.
To me, that kind of injury doesn’t sound like the result of consensual sex for anyone but an extreme BDSMer.
I personally think that in a relationship between a BDSMer and a non-BDSMer, the BDSM should either accept non-BDSM sexuality, or accept that the relationship isn’t going to work out.