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- n. One who grieves
from the GNU version of the Collaborative International Dictionary of English
- n. One who, or that which, grieves.
from The Century Dictionary and Cyclopedia
- n. One who or that which grieves or laments.
from WordNet 3.0 Copyright 2006 by Princeton University. All rights reserved.
- n. a person who is feeling grief (as grieving over someone who has died)
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The griever is expected, after missing a few days of work, to act normal, to show no emotion that may be seen as sad, maudlin, angry, or grief-stricken.
Those who know me well know that I'm not big "griever".
Never minimize their pain -- Telling a griever that their pain isn't so bad, that their loved one is better off in heaven, or that "time heals all wounds" does not help.
Acknowledge their loss -- Although this seems so simple and so obvious, it's amazing how many people avoid mentioning loss to a griever.
No matter how many years have gone by, a griever feels loss during the holidays.
Most likely the omission is a well-intentioned desire to avoid inflicting further pain, but the effect is nonetheless hurtful to a griever who ends up feeling ignored.
Show up with a gift -- It doesn't have to be anything elaborate, but a plate of cookies, a poinsettia plant, or a holiday stew can really touch a griever.
Few of us ever receive advice on how to console a griever.
Consoling a griever can feel like a frightening task.
If you have a memory to share, know that it is a gift to the griever.