from Wiktionary, Creative Commons Attribution/Share-Alike License
- n. The feeling of joy associated with seeing a loved one love another; contrasted with jealousy.
from The Century Dictionary and Cyclopedia
- n. An obsolete form of comparison.
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Most of all, it involves a very wonderful word, "compersion," which poly writers describe as the opposite of jealousy.
Polys call this process "compersion" — or learning to find personal fulfillment in the emotional and sexual satisfaction of your partner, even if you're not the one doing the satisfying.
We are all capable of being poly, provided we can develop compersion (the capacity to take pleasure in the enjoyment by someone you love, of their love for another).
Poly teaches you (by necessity) skills that make you a more lovable and valuable community member, skills that will be critical to know to cope with 21st century crises: communication skills, compersion, self-knowledge, honesty, patience, consensus-building, conflict resolution etc.
I try to warn people about this (I tell them I am polyamorous, and lazy, explain about compersion, and warn them of my selfishness and insensitivity and intolerance of neediness and expectation) but I still end up hurting people, which does make me unhappy.
Polyamory groups encourage the multilateral relationships where there is a replacement of jealousy with compersion, clear hierarchy of relationships or where or empathizing with a lover's joy with expectations are otherwise fixed.
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