distancer

Definitions

noun psychology A person who tends to maintain emotional distance and detachment
noun A means for establishing distance
noun dated A long-distance runner

distance +‎ -er

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It is quite common that one person in a partnership is the "distancer" and the other is the "pursuer," so you can alter this "play" by you yourself becoming the distancer.

Vh1 Blog 2009
One popular phrase among psychologists is “the distancer and the pursuer”, says Northam.

Why Men and Women Argue Differently | Impact Lab 2007
If you're a distancer, try approaching your partner much more consistently.

Dr. Joshua Coleman: Top 5 Signs You May be Heading for Divorce 2008
Over time, the pursuer gets more desperate, hurt, and angry and the distancer gets more sullen, shut down, and rejecting.

Dr. Joshua Coleman: Top 5 Signs You May be Heading for Divorce 2008
We're going to put a distancer on this for you, and show you as it reaches out up here towards the coast, it's roughly about 180 miles away.

CNN Transcript Aug 31, 2008 2008
Clearly the U.S. would not be best-pleased and Egypt is likely to do the big distancer given Nasrallah's admission of sending undercover agent provocateurs into Egypt and possible involvement with the last bombing in Cairo.

Good Neighbours Yaeli 2009
One of the more familiar, and problematic, family constellations, for instance, is the so-called persuader-distancer couple, consisting of an "over-involved" mother and an "unavailable 'father who between them, stir up a witch's brew offamily tensions.

Fixing The 'Between' 2008